I know, I know. Every wedding vendor claims that their product or service is essential. We don’t get into this business without believing in it whole-heartedly, right?
I might be just a little bit biased, but I believe that stationery is one of the most important elements of a wedding day. From save the dates, to your invitation suite, to day-of materials like ceremony programs, your paper does more than just deliver information — it becomes a part of your story, your union, and your memory of the day itself.
Let me break it down for ya: here’s four reasons why you want to spend some extra special time, attention, and care on your wedding stationery.
1. Your union is special and deserves to be celebrated beautifully.
Marriage is a big deal. What better thing to celebrate than the love between two people, making the intentional and intimate decision to choose one another forever?
Your story is significant and deserves a little permanent ink.
2. Consider your invitations your very first family heirloom.
Are you the type to keep meaningful momentos? Like a ticket from the first concert you went to with your main squeeze — or that stained coaster from the dive bar where you met. Or maybe you’re the type to invest in a custom piece, like a handmade cutting board engraved with your family name. Whatever it is, what do you want to keep forever? Consider what feels special and significant to you; what holds meaning, or marks an important benchmark in the story you’re writing together.
Feels nice, right? I’m the sentimental type when it comes to items that hold memory, especially when it comes down to my relationship and history with my husband (hi Max!).
What’s significant to you? Consider when you’re old and grey, pulling out your wedding album after all of those years together, your wedding invitation tucked between those precious pages. Create the keepsake you’ll want to show your grandchildren.
→ Let’s get started on your family heirloom
3. Your paper is the first touchpoint of your big day.
Remember: just because your wedding is on your mind every minute of every day (or maybe that was just me?), doesn’t mean it’s playing on a loop in your guests’ heads, too! Not only does your wedding paper serve as an informational resource, but it conveys a theme. The mood, the vibe, the feelings you want your guests to experience when they spend your day with you.
Or maybe you want a reaction kind of like this? Actual texts a #paperandhoneybride has received from loved ones:
4. Why wedding invitations matter: your paper is one of the only tangible items you’ll have left to remember your wedding day.
Not many people consider this, but it’s so important.
The cake will be eaten.
The flowers will wilt and brown.
You might still have your dress, but it’s likely in a protective plastic cocoon in the back of your closet.
Besides your photography or videography, there’s one more tangible, physical item left: the paper!
As a sentimentalist with a HORRIBLE memory, this point feels a little bittersweet. I remember vividly a moment I had dancing at my wedding, when I stopped in an attempt for a few minutes of mindfulness. Looking around at a room full of people I adore, celebrating and laughing; the joy and love that radiated at such a high frequency it felt like a dream; the overwhelm and trying to wrap my head around the fact that I just married (!!) the most extraordinary person I know. I remember telling myself, “Pause. Take this in. This is fleeting and temporary and however intoxicating this all is, you’ll never remember it exactly, so take it all in right now and just BE.”
I mean, I’m sure I wasn’t that extra in the moment. (Reading this back now feels so very dramatic.) BUT — as someone who flies around the house only to constantly ask herself, “…why’d I come in here again?” — when I have a vivid memory, I take it to mean it’s pretty important. We’re coming up on 6 years of marriage (May 2019!) and already my memories of our day are fading quickly. I can’t tell you how much I still cherish our custom cake topper, or the big letter J we painstakingly wrapped in faux moss and proudly displayed, or the dried baby’s breath bouquet my best friend held onto while I said my vows. Those things are SO special to me.
